My boyfriend (now ex) of a year & a half broke up with me roughly three months ago. I've tried so many things but I can't get over him, I'm still deeply in love with him. Any advice?
It will take time. That’s all that I can tell you. You won’t wake up one day and be over him. Everyday you get a little better. You never thought you could live without him, and here you are. You’re getting stronger. Everyday you live without him just proves how strong you really are.
No matter how you feel, what’s done is done. There isn’t much to be said. He’s gone, and you’re still here. I would say just try to surround yourself with people who will make you happy. Think of what you’ve learned and how much you’ve changed because of him.
Don’t beat yourself up for not being over him. When you invest time into someone and it doesn’t work out, that’s really hard to accept.
You should be proud that you were brave enough to get into a relationship with someone, and put yourself out there.
You’re stronger than you think, and things will get better.
Good luck. :) keep your head up.
When my ex broke up with me before our senior year he told me that he wanted our relationship to work in the long run and that he wanted me to be the one that he ended his live with.i want that to happen more than anything, but should I believe him? Or is him breaking up with me with him saying this an easy way for him to get out of saying how he really feels?
If he really loved you, why break up? That doesn’t make any sense. Maybe he wants to be able to flirt with other people and fool around, and have you there to fall back to if something doesn’t work out with another girl.
That’s really crappy to put you on the back burner, if that is what he is doing. I think that it’s ok to stay in contact with him, but don’t let him know you’ll always be waiting. You should take this time as trying to figure out who you are without him.
I think there’s something he isn’t telling you. Maybe he’s afraid to, or doesn’t think that you will understand. Either way, what’s done is done, and you can’t change that now. Life will go on.
I love this guy alot but we broke up because the relationship wasn't going according to plan... He told me no matter how much he tried he couldn't love me... But the relationship was only for two weeks but I don't know why I feel he's the one for me! I'm trying to get him back but he said he won't come back and wants to be friends but I don't see myself with him as friend so any advice?
I think that if he wants to just be friends and you want to be more, it will never work out. You either have to just be ok with being friends, or not talk to him. No matter how much you try, you can’t make someone love you. It’s a waste of time to try. You’re wasting your time trying to be with him. Is he doesn’t love you back, the relationship will never work out.
Like I said, either be friends or don’t talk at all. It’s a waste of time to try to make something work that never will.
Me and my boyfriend broke up 3 months ago. And it was a bad break up cuz i love him too much but he doesnt feel the same anymore. Our break up push me cut myself to ease the pain but now i dont do it anymore. My problem is my ex keeps on calling at least once or twice a month. I ignore his calls eventhough i wanna answer. I want a good advice on what i should do cuz everytime i see his number on my phone my heart beat fast and i still cant forget about him. I love him too much
Well, ignoring him is the right thing to do. Don’t put yourself in a position where you could fall back into the same patterns. You ignoring him is your brain knowing that you are ready to move on. It’s ok to be friends, and it’s ok to move on.
Going through a break up is one of the hardest things that you will ever do. But self harming wont fix anything. It doesn’t hurt them, it only hurts you. I know that you’re hurting inside, but please just stop self harming. You should be proud that you put yourself out there. Just because this didn’t work out doesn’t mean that you are hopeless.
There’s still so much potential in you. Don’t give someone the satisfaction of watching you suffer. You’re hurting inside, I understand that.
There’s no advice that I can give you that will make it all better. All I can say is that time heals wounds. Not all of them, but it does get better. Life is what happens when we are busy making other plans. You might have seen you together forever, but people change, minds do, and there’s nothing you can do about that.
What’s done is done. There isn’t much to be said or done now. Like I said, life goes on. There are other fish in the sea. Take some time to get to know yourself. Take this time as figuring yourself out. No one will ever love you until you love yourself.
Things get better. Whether you want them to or not. Memories fade, people change, and time matches on. There’s still so much to live for.
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i had a bf we brokeup since 1 yr .. bt nw he calls me frequently n says that he still has feelings 4 me.. n he is in a relationship wid a girl.. bt then too he says we can cum back together nw ..even i love him..i dnt know wat to do.. whenever i ask abt his gf .. he says she has no feelings for him .. n he will handle her after we cum back.. and 1 thing more he keeps on asking me 4 making love wid him... plz suggest sumthing.. wat shud i do..
If he’s being unfaithful to her, he’ll be unfaithful to you. It sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. And that’s not fair to anyone. I think your best option is to just stay friends. I feel like with him, all that you are doing is setting yourself up for failure.
Ok, so I'm dating this guy and we haven't been dating long, only about 2 months. But, I'm not really feeling it. We go to different schools and I liked us as friends better. He's like overly obsessive over me and it gets annoying. He also has trust issues and goes through my phone all the time. I don't want to hurt him or ruin our friendship and my parents and friends really like him. But, I feel like I would have a much better relationship with someone else. What should I do?
Break up! What’s the use of staying in a relationship you aren’t getting anything out of? If he doesn’t trust you, it will NEVER EVER WORK. ever! He needs to figure his head out, and you shouldn’t be on the sidelines waiting. Being in a relationship when you don’t want to be just makes things harder. Break it off now, you’ll thank yourself later. Don’t let it go any further. It isn’t worth your time.
ok so i need some advice, this guy i have liked for 4 yearrs off and on. he is really sweet and flirty when we are alone and when we are in pubic he literally hates my guts (he has atmitted to it) he flirts with everygirl but now every girl hates his guts. ou family's are best friends. he will hold my hand and like me in january and febuaray then hate my guts march then like me in April and hate my guts all summer. but the deal is i really like him. like realy like him. what should i do??
Dump him! He’s a bipolar jack ass. I had a guys like this, and it drove me nuts! Be with someone who likes you 100% of the time. That’s completely ridiculous. Cut off contact, and just move on. Trust me, you will not gain anything but heart break from this.
Okay so, I'm so lost!!! Here's the story... I dated a guy in high school who passed away from heart failure. He was my first love!!! He showed me love and respect for the first time in my life. When he passed away I wanted to die. David picked me up again. He showed me there is still life for me and he helped me love again. We've been together for 3 years. He just broke up with me and I am feeling like I did when I lost the love of my life. I'm also very shocked!!! I don't know what to do.. Help
Move on. You need to learn how to just be yourself. Breakups are really hard, but being completely dependent on someone else for happiness will never get you anywhere.
Being single is what is best for you right now. You might not believe that, but its true. You need to find yourself, and you will never do that if you aren’t out on your own trying to figure things out.
You lives with out him before, and you will do it again. 3 years is a longtime. Yes, you have some great memories, but that’s all they are now. Memories. So cherish them, and just be yourself.
No one will ever love you until you love yourself.
It's been 3 years since me ex boyfriend broke up with me. He's had a lot of other girlfriends but I've been single ever since. He still texts me, like every day, especially now that he's single again. He knows I still love him with all my heart, but he doesn't want to get back together with me. It just feels like he wants me around, just in case. He has told me straight to my face that he doesn't want me to let go completely. I just miss him so much and I have no clue how to get over him...
Don’t be someone’s option. Don’t let them have the satisfaction of knowing you will always be there waiting.
The first step is to cut off contact. Every time you talk to him you are reopening the wound that you tried to hard to heal.
It’s not worth your time anymore. Cutting him off will make you feel so much better. Not in one day, but over time. Everytime that you talk, you fall a little more for him, and he just gets another notch in his belt.
Do it for you. Stop talking to him. It will be tough, but you ARE tough.
You’re good enough.
You’re strong enough.
You are enough.
So stop breaking yourself. Get up and dust yourself off. You are better than this.
So my first love broke up with me over the phone less than a week after we got out of our first year of college saying that he wasn't really in love with me anymore (even though he said he loved me before we left). He said he wanted to be best friends, but summer is almost over and he hasn't contacted me. I don't love him anymore, but I feel like I can't just let the relationship/friendship or whatever die when a lot of my "firsts" were with him. Any advice?
Well, I think it’s already dead. If you’re over him, then move on. He hasn’t tried to contact you, and you haven’t tried to contact him. It sounds like the relationship is already dead.
Sure, you have some great memories, but that’s all yet are. Memories.
You’re different people now, so move on. You’re doing fine at it right now. Keep the memories, and congratulate yourself on being brave enough to take that leap and have some firsts with him.
You’ll find love again. This isn’t the end for you. :)
My boyfriend of six months broke up with me this morning bc i found out he called his ex the day before. I confronted him and he got all defensive and immediatelyi knew that he felt guilty, he's done this before saying that he's super insecure and stuff . He feels as though I'm looking for someone better but he loves me so much he doesn't want to break up . Which pisses me off because hes so wrong. I don't know what to do I feel so insecure
This relationship is a really tough one. You’re both really insecure, and that just spells out trouble. You guys just need to sit down and work things out. It’s really your only option.
He shouldn’t be talking to his ex if he’s with you. Simple as that. If he is so worried that you have found someone else, I’m sorry to say it but this relationship might not be a healthy one.
Like I always say, be in a relationship for the right reasons. Because you’re happy, because you really love each other, and because they make you a better person.
The constant turmoil doesn’t do you or the other person any good.
Stay strong. Do what makes you truly happy.
my boyfriend and i just broke up last night. we've been together for 11 months. idk what to do. we've been fighting so much lately and he has so much going on, but i live wiyh him and i have to until i get enough money to leave. what do i do?
Be civil. It’s your only option. If you live with him, that could be the source of the fighting. Leave it at that. Just be friends, be civil, and just keep your distance.